Codependency is a behavioural trait that can be developed in childhood or later in life.

It is where we have had to become heightened to people’s reactions around us in order to feel safe, liked & enough.

Codependents can become people pleasers and it can make them feel vulnerable and unsafe if they feel people are judging them or people do not like them.

It can be a pattern of helping, rescuing or trying to control others.They often do this at the expense of their own needs.

How you define yourself is largely based on what you do for others. 

This can come from a place of not feeling good enough and needing external validation.